Why Oh Why Do I Whine?

I whine, I have complaints – it can be about others, situations that really don’t involve me – but need to be a kepoh (busybody) and also the ability to whine and complain about myself. Hence, this begs the question – Is it ok to whine or complain? Yes and no.

We live in a world that is inhabitat with over 7+ billion humans and we interact with them, well not all 7+ billion but those in our daily lives – ourselves (yes, we do in some way interact with ourselves), family, friends, work colleagues etc. We have our strengths and our weakness but more so we have our EXCEPTATIONS and PERCEPTION of things. Hence, we will be faced with people and situations that will cause us to react – that leads us to whining and complaining when the situation creates irritation or unhappiness etc.

I think it’s ok to complain and even whine -and that is the yes part of the question. Releasing our frustrations is better than keeping it inside of us. We can whine to our close friends or even journal our frustrations. However, continuing this cycle is not healthy and not doing something about it is also not healthy. I know it is easier said than done but it is important that we need to embrace that if we continue to have our expectation of how someone else should behave and/or why a situation that really does not involve us has to change we are only going to continue whining and complaining.

This is only going to create a sense of bitterness within you because life in general will go on.

The different situations that may cause us to complain would be :-

1. About another person – here we need to embrace if there is something about a person you do not like. You have an option to speak to the person or just accept that this is how the person is. You complaining is not going to change anything unless you address the situation.
2. If you get caught up with situations that causes you a sense of distress or anger – you either take action to change it or move on.
3. If you feel your life is never good enough then YOU can change it and if you don’t – you just live with it
4. If you ask for something and get it but not in a way you want it then you just deal with it.

For those of you that are filled with complaints – remember if you continue to be this way, in time even those closest to you will not be there to listen because being in a constant state of complaining is very toxic. For those who find that they are caught in a situation with someone who does complain all the time and if you find it overwhelming – distant yourself and create boundaries.

Take care everyone and be kind to yourself and be kind to others.