Why Can’t I Get A Break?

We sometimes feel we are in a vicious cycle of the same thing – same relationship situation but the partners keeps changing, same financial situation without any opportunities.

You may meditate, listen to affirmations, do things different but yet nothing changes. So, why can’t there be a breakthrough?

I believe that there are a few factors and I would like to share some of those :

1. Where are you coming from – Our past plays a big part in our present. If you find you are trying to move forward or attain a breakthrough, try and pause and ask yourself whether your past experience is something you need to look at.
   Eg : If you find yourself attracting the same kind of partners, you need to clear a pattern and to do that stop having relationships for a bit and deal with what you are attracting.
   
2. Expectations/External Influences – When you seek a breakthrough, are you creating unrealistic expectations or are you caught up by external influences. You need to find your comfort level and not just blindly do things because others are doing it. On a deeper level we all may not truly want to be like the billionaires out there.
   
3. We just talk or whine – Change takes times and it is very dependent on your past and your environment. Let’s admit it, we are all not built the same. Some of us use our pain and turn it to success much faster than others. We need to sooner or later stop finding excuses or being the victim. You don’t get breakthroughs by whining, you get breakthroughs by action.
   
4. Laziness and being entitled – If you are a lazy bum bum and/or you feel that you are entitled that things need to happen for you without taking any effort – too bad, so sad cause nothing is going to change. We are unfortunately not born equal.
   
5. Change the way you do things – If you find that the method you are using is not producing results, then pause and ask yourself what do I need to change. Use the things that work and let go for things that do not.
   
6. Letting go – Sometimes, when we try too hard that intensity may cause an issue. This is because we are so desperate for a breakthrough that the energy we are putting in may be more of desperation rather than drive. Relax a little and trust that even though you are letting go, it doesn’t mean you won’t get that breakthrough.
   

I know it is easy to say, do not give up. On a personal level, I can relate to hoping and wanting to have breakthroughs and even as I am writing this there are areas in my life I hope to be able to see a breakthrough. One thing I can say is, there will be that breakthrough but we need to do the work. Life isn’t fair for some of us but try and persevere because we all deserve to have a break.

Take care everyone. Be kind to yourself and to others.