Shorts – Learn to Define

If you want something in your life – happiness,, wealth, health, success etc., you need to first learn to define what you truly want.

Let us say you want to attain more money and you say – I want to be rich. Write down your definition of what being rich is to you. We all want to be rich but our level of wealth will differ. The word ‘rich’ really has no clear definition to what you want hence you need to define what this means.

This is the same when it comes to a relationship – you may say something to the effect that – I want to be in a relationship – but what does that even mean to you. Again, write down what your definition of a relationship means and what you want to experience.

Now, one thing to remember when you are doing this exercise of writing, we may tend to write based on our lack and/or our bad experiences.

Let us look at the definition of a relationship, you may write – I want to be in a loving, healthy, balance and stable relationship with someone who is faithful to me.

You need to then examine this definition and to ask yourself if any of the elements you have written is due to a bad experience in a previous relationship. If it is, then you need to go to the next step to reflect on whether there is a fear within you that has caused you to mention – a partner who is faithful.

If you find that there is a past attached to your definition then try and work on that and then go back to redefine your definition of what you mean when you say – I want a relationship.

Definition gives us clarity, it can be used for your life in general or specific areas. Hence when you create your definition, you will then gain clarity when you say – I want more money or I want to be in a relationship.

The energies of your words will then connect to your definition. This is why ensuring that your definition is not connected to your fears and/or insecurities is important and then allow you to take action in attaining what you want.

Remember, this definition is not carved in stone and you can tweak it but it is essential to have a definition of the same.

Take care everyone and be kind to yourself and to others.