Love

The article below will not provide an answer. It is hope that is will however give the reader some insights.

In the bible we have a phrase somewhere that says to ‘Love thine enemies’ then I believe Sun Tzu said that, ‘It is easy to love your friend but the hardest lesson to learn is to love your enemy’ then we hear this phrase saying, ‘We should love ourselves’ – this concept of self love.

However, who has actually taught us what love is. Again in the bible we have a passage somewhere (am just lazy to find out where exactly where but it’s somewhere is the book of Corinthians) saying, ‘Love is patient, love is kind, love protects, trusts, hope, preserves and love never fails’ (at this juncture I just burst out laughing by myself).

Human love is just an emotion, divine love on the other hand is everything, anything and nothing as the same time. We all will have subjective views on what love is and one really cannot define it because when we say we love, it does not come from the heart chakra but the sacral chakra as we love with our emotions. These are then emotions like protect, trust, hope and preserve and these emotions come from our base and sacral chakra, it has nothing to do with your physical heart or even your heart chakra.

Then to top it off, who is suppose to teach us self-love and we have not even touched the aspect of Divine love – to love unconditionally.

We say a mother’s love can be a closest a child can experience unconditional love but this again is subjective.

I don’t know what love is but I don’t feel there is a need to define it as well. We just need to be comfortable with our own definition – to me love is doing my best not to hurt other people, to do my best to be kind to my family and friends to experience that feeling of being cared for.

I sure as hell don’t want to love my enemies, I just rather move away from them but with a sense of peace and not to hate them. I want my understanding of love to evolve and be ok if it does not have a set, structured definition. I don’t want to love because of guilt nor do I want to be burdened. I just want to have my own definition of love that can be redefined over time.

Metallica (rock band) has a series of songs called The Unforgiven – there are 3 songs with the same title but are individual songs. I like the first 2 songs and on a personal level I feel this is what I feel about love – below are parts of the songs of which has impacted me.

The Unforgiven – This to me is about me and my external
‘What I’ve felt, what I have known, never shined through in what I have shown, never free, never me, won’t see what might had been.’

The Unforgiven II – This to me is about me and my internal (the light and the dark)

‘What I’ve felt, what I have known, turn the pages, turn the stone, behind the door should I open it for you? What I’ve felt, what I’ve known, sick and tired, I stand alone, could you be there cause I am the one who waits for you or are you unforgiven too?’

In conclusion, I don’t think love deserves a structured definition, it requires your definition – love however is not meant to be suppressive nor controlling. Love can hurt and yet it can make us happy. Just enjoy your definition of love.

Take care everyone. Be kind to yourself and to others.